Christian & Single: Trusting God’s Timing When You Want To Get Married Now!

Hey Friend,

Have you ever struggled with God’s timing when it doesn’t fit your agenda?

I’ve had an untold amount of conversations, Instagram DM’s, what’s app messages from beautiful-hearted women out there that are hoping to meet someone one day, but they feel like it’s taking too long! They believe they’ll meet someone, BUT THEY WANT IT NOW! I realised that many of them are believing God that they ‘will” meet someone! But a trend I noticed is that they’re totally struggling with the ‘when?’

“I want to get married but it’s taking sooo loooong” is a common cry! “When will I meet someone?”

Doubt creeps and I hear comments like:

  • I think I’m single because I have kids from a previous relationship so no-one will want me
  • I’m not pretty enough
  •  I don’t think I’ll ever meet anyone
  • I can’t wait anymore (meaning I’m just going to settle for a man not worthy of me)
  • There are no men in the church
  • There are no good Christian men left

These above are all lies!

Worrying, stressing and obsessing about meeting someone will not make him come along any sooner!!!!! Hello somebody! Every time you go to a conference, a wedding, church, you’re like ‘Am going to meet him? Is today the day?’ You’ve signed up for every Christian dating app going and still no progress (not that there is anything wrong with online dating!) and every time someone is not a match you beat yourself up about it. But have you ever met someone so focused on being married in the future, that they are not really living and enjoying the present? They are missing out on this beautiful current season in their life.

Some of Us Believers Often Know In Our Hearts That God ‘Can’, But Struggle To Trust In His ‘When’!

I’ve been like that too in the past! But after trying to rush the process and making too many mistakes, I surrendered to God’s way and timing. He’s the parent right, so He must know best! Do you trust your Daddy to know what’s best and when is best? You might be a very organised person with 5-year life plan, but the human vision is often short-sighted in comparison to God’s view of eternity.

When reading about the life of Sarah and Abraham in the Bible these words pop off the page

“…at the appointed time….” (Gen 21 v2, Genesis 17:21). Those words get me every time!

At the appointed time

God’s Timing Is Perfect

They knew that God had a vision, a plan, a hope, direction, a destiny and a purpose for their life that would impact all of humanity. What happened when Sarah tried to rush God’s timing and interfered with God’s plan? It didn’t stop God’s plan from playing out but because Sarah’s inability to wait for God to allow it to happen in His time, multiple people in the story ended up with broken hearts. Sarah, Hagar, Ishmael and Abraham to name a few.

God know’s the best time for the vision to come to fruition and his timing was perfect.

So today I want to encourage my single ladies in Christ today. That God is faithful; he has not forgotten you. If God could find someone for Adam when there were no other human beings on the planet then He can find someone for you. But are you willing to embrace this single season?

You are not single because something is wrong with you. Let go of where you think you should be, how the world tells you should be and where the church sometimes pressures singles to be, and instead seek Gods face knowing that he holds your eternity.

– Your value is beyond calculation
– You are a delightful masterpiece of the Most High God
– As a daughter of the King you have royalty built into your DNA
– You are a conqueror and a warrior for Christ
– You can set your attitude to live from a place of gratitude

 

Having faith, is about more than just knowing God can and that He is able, it’s also about trusting his time too.

Habakkuk 2:3 says “For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the goal – it will not fail. If it seems slow, WAIT for it; it will surely come, it will not delay.

trust in God's timing when you are a christian single

Speaking from my own experience, when I said “Lord, I will not compromise, and I do not care if I am 50 when I get married, I don’t care how old I get, I just want I serve you with my whole heart. Single or married. I trust in your timing” and I took my list of things that I wanted in a husband, and I took this letter that I had written to God about getting married, and I binned them both and declared, ‘Lord, you know what I want but most importantly you know what I need and when’. I prayerfully let go and gave it all to him. My single time, from then on was well spent.

I went into ministry, serving as God called me to, and guess what? Right there, that’s where I met my Mr. Right-For-Me. Serving in ministry together. After raising my boys as a single mum for 17 years (now that’s a long time) BY THE GRACE OF GOD, I have now, been married to my caring, loving, born-again, holy-ghost filled, talented designer, man-crush-every-day for almost 2 years. I’m not saying to go into ministry and you’ll meet your husband, I’m saying that I was so busy living my life on PURPOSE and being PRESENT, that without out even noticing it I ended up being POSITIONED to meet him.

Live Your Best Life

Live in abundance. If God can do it for me He will do it for you….at the perfect time. 💓📸💍

We recently did a 4 week study on Philippians in our Facebook group. Philippians 4:23 Paul says this “…for I have learned in whatever situation I am in to be content”. Ask God to help you to be content in Him in every season. Journey through Philippians with Paul and see what it’s like to choose Joy in all circumstances of life. (You can find a journal Guide here)

Here are some scriptures about God’ timing and learning to rely on God:

Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Proverbs 16:9 – A man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 – He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet[a] no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

I know you trust God is able and He will, but can you trust in His ‘when’?

With heart & hope,

Shovorne


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